Türkiye Bütüncül Psikoterapi Dergisi

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The therapist’s ability to empathize with the counselee, to analyze transference and countertransference connec- tions by supporting the counselee’s strong parts, and to be in a natural, sincere, and introverted state in the thera- peutic environment is directly related to her psychological structure. The therapist needs to be able to give up the god-savior role and her narcissism, especially in the therapy of clients with narcissistic personality disorder or narcis- sistic defenses. The client; internalizes and ingests by transforming the strong stance of the therapist, who is natural, sincere, can sincerely interpret the countertransference, and accepts himself as s/he is. Only in this way can the client mature her/his narcissism.
The counselee wants to disrupt this mature and strong stance of the therapist, because according to Kohut’s expla- nations, the child feeds on the narcissism of the therapist, just as the child feeds on the narcissism of his/her parent, and satisfies his/her narcissism.
The therapist’s abandonment of narcissism may enable the counselee to reveal disruptive, destructive, and abando- ning object relationships. Therapists’ maturation of their own narcissism enables them to fully perform the treatment by increasing their resilience to all kinds of disruptive transference of their clients. In this regard, it is essential for the therapist to keep their pathologies under control and mature them through their own therapy process or by receiving supervision in order to carry out therapies that enable change and transformation.